— Being willing to say YES to what is and to what is next
How often, if ever, do you feel completely fulfilled, at peace, or childishly joyous without any logical reason?
If someone had asked me that question five years ago, I would most certainly have answered; “never”! I wouldn’t have been able to consciously remember a time when I felt completely fulfilled without reason or external influence. It’s not until more recently I sometimes, and more often so, find myself feeling completely at ease or feeling joyous without any ‘good’ reason, just by being alive at that moment. To be able to experience this is one of the greatest gifts that I ever been given. It still feels somewhat a bit mysterious and sometimes even unsettling, at least for the mind who is busy trying to find non-existing rational evidence for such an experience.
The most exciting breakthroughs of the twenty-first century will not occur because of technology, but because of an expanding concept of what it means to be human. — John Naisbitt
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to portray that I’ve gone through some mysterious transformation where I only enjoy blissfulness and peace, far from it. My life, as for most other people, flows between peaks and valleys, highs and lows, excitement and fear, laughter and tears. Also, it didn’t just happen, I have invested a lot of time, money and above all courage in trying to transform this life into one worth living.
Transformation comes in many forms; it is uniquely different for everyone and highly personal. So, given that, is there a way that we can tell if transformation is present in our lives? Well, in my experience there are several signs that we can look for such as; that we continuously shift
from what do I need to how do I contribute,
from how do I compare, to how does this person contribute to me, and
from how do I impress this person, to how can this person inspire me.
As human beings, we constantly shift between being aligned to (i.e. believing) our monkey mind (scarcity thoughts and limiting beliefs) and being aligned to who we are (whole and complete human beings). We can also refer to this as being ‘above’ or ‘below the line’. When we’re ‘above the line’, we’re in a conscious and relaxed state, where we can easily access compassion and empathy. From this place, we expand, we see opportunities, we trust, and we’re connected to ourselves and others.
However, for different reasons, we tend to, at times, fall below the line. In this state, we’re mostly unconscious and disconnected from ourselves and others. We’re in survival mode and become focused on what we’re lacking and what we need. From this place, we tend to experience comparison, doubt, judgement, frustration, excessive thinking, worrying, addiction, defensiveness and the list goes on. Our amygdala is activated, and if we spend enough time in such a stress state, our operating system (nervous system) eventually becomes overheated, and that’s when people tend to ‘burn out’.
At least, that’s what happened to me. It got so bad at one stage that I couldn’t even read a standard newspaper article as my brain was incapable of processing, remembering and making sense of the information. It’s a scary place that I don’t wish upon anyone. However, I needed to go there to make significant changes in my life. Graced with the fantastic support from people close to me and through the guidance of some incredible human beings, I managed to change the trajectory of my life.
Eventually, this is why I decided to become a coach; I’m deeply passionate about supporting people to realise their greatness so that they can experience how powerful they are when they take action from that place. It’s not a magical process; it just requires someone to be willing to say yes to what’s next in their life.
“Until you take ownership for your life, you will always be chasing happiness.” — Sean Stephenson
Through the process of action-oriented coaching, we use immersive experiences, practical and powerful tools, iterative practice as the formula for achieving success and building new habits. Are you willing and ready to experience more clarity, focus, ease and grace in your life? If the answer is yes, we will support you to experience success much quicker, and with more ease, than you ever thought possible.
